KAMPALA – The end of the relationship between singers Rema Namakula and Eddie Kenzo was confirmed on Independence Day when the former’s husband-to-be, Hamza Sebunya, visited her parents in what is referred to as ‘Okukyala’ in Buganda.
The pictures and videos from the function broke the internet, with many social media enthusiasts coming up with all sorts of conclusions about the two artistes’ failed marriage. In the court of public opinion, Kenzo was adjudged to have contributed to the failure of the marriage.
The speculation and public judgement had come early last month after it emerged that Rema had found another man, whom she is set to introduce in November.
However, the question is: does Kenzo deserve public sympathy or condemnation?
Outspoken Muslim cleric Sheikh Nuhu Muzaata on Independence Day congratulated Rema for her newfound love and went ahead to hint on her past relationship with Eddy Kenzo, suggest that the latter is a love nigga.
Whereas, Muzaata did not mention any names, social media users claim he was sending an indirect message to Kenzo. Muzaata has reportedly apologized to Kenzo in a social media post after he used his position to spread hatred.
Just like other couples, Rema and Kenzo are believed to have suffered challenges in their relationship but the pair were holding onto each other with the hope that the bad could get better.
It should also be remembered that the breakup has seen Kenzo sidelined and perhaps suffering the worst form of depression.
On Thursday, a day after Kukyala, Kenzo, who is currently abroad, came out to post on social media that [I’m] stronger than ever. Everything happens for reason ALHAMDLILLAH.” But commentators believe he should strongly be supported in the aftermath of the such a painful breakup.
Kenzo has personally confirmed this saying this is the worst time he has ever lived.
“I deserve better,” he said in a recent Facebook post adding that “it’s only God that can judge me not any one.”
“I’m so sensitive when it comes to my mother because she wanted to groom us in a good way so that we also are at the same level as all of you, but Allah made it that way,” Kenzo wrote in one of his latest posts.
The singer who is scheduled to perform in Columbia over the weekend expressed worry saying: “I can’t sleep… I can’t eat. I don’t even know how I’m gonna perform on this show in Colombia”.
Immediately after the breakup, Kenzo admitted that he not only lost the person he loved, but his existence as part of that couple and that the end of their relationship to him, it felt as though life had ended as well.
The best idea is how to help Kenzo rise above his negative feelings, which can help him heal, probably.
Men tend to have a harder time dealing with their emotions, often becoming easily overwhelmed and reacting by emotionally shutting down and withdrawing.
Friends need to reach out to Kenzo and let him know that he is not alone. They need to show him that they care about him and that they are thinking about him away from the social media rants.
Psychology researcher Helen Fisher says men tend to heal by doing activities with their friends, not by discussing their breakups, fore example, she says an afternoon with a buddy playing paintball, fishing or cheering at the football game can be very beneficial.
A popular Instagram post titled World Mental Health Reminder, reads that Mental Heath isn’t a race and that you don’t need to be sick enough to get the help.
“Everyone deserves compassion and understanding! You never know someone could be struggling – kindness is so important when is on inside.”
It adds that “sometimes it feels like no one can see the effort putting in or the progress you’re have made.”